Unpacking Embodying Our Words

In anticipation of Embodying Our Words – a HerStories program in the greater Lansing area held February 18 and 19 – I reread Gloria Anzaldúa’s essay “now let us shift . . . the path of conocimiento . . . inner work, public acts” (This Bridge We Call Home 2002). This essay inspired EOW’s theme of embodied writing, life stories that connect to the body. (See the essay in PDF.)

The program began with a talking circle to honor Anzaldúa and explore participants’ embodied experiences. Here is what I read aloud from her poetic prose, which I “heard” on the page in this poetic form:

Knowing that something in you, or of you,
must die before something else can be born,
you throw your old self into the ritual pyre,
a passage by fire.

In relinquishing your old self,
you realize that some aspect of who you are
–identities people have imposed on you
as a woman of color
and that you have internalized–
also are made up.

Identity becomes a cage
you reinforce and double-lock yourself into.
The life you thought inevitable, unalterable,
and fixed in some foundational reality
is smoke, a mental construction, fabrication.

So, you reason, if it’s all made up,
you can compose it anew and differently.

I sat with these words at The Writing Room, a creative-writing circle I facilitate twice a month and fell the night before EOW. Weighing what Anzaldúa’s story evokes about my own, an original poem took shape, “Once upon a time”. I read the poem with Anzaldúa’s excerpt during the talking circle:

Once upon a time I was
a child living with two parents
a child not sexually assaulted

Once upon a time I was
a Bible-thumping born-again evangelical
a Christian full of certainty and fear

Once upon a time I was
a devout wife
a devout intellectual

Once upon a time I was
a believer in the institution of education
a believer in institutional change

Once upon a time
there came a time
to revise me
and another
and another

Once upon a time
there came a time
to become me
again and again

Only two days after EOW, I still ponder the impact of the program. I look forward to sharing more about the experience in the future. Some reflections will be posted at The HerStories Project website and some here on my personal blog.

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V-Day 2011

Do you know about V-Day? The ‘V’ in V-Day stands for Victory, Valentine and Vagina. It is a global activist movement to stop violence against women and girls. Wherever you are in the world search here to locate events, explore why V-Day started back in 1998, and try out the character combination ({}) to show solidarity!

A wealth of events this week in the Greater Lansing Area embrace the spirit of V-Day. On Tuesday, Feb. 15, from 5:30-6:30pm, the Women’s Center of Greater Lansing Book Club discusses Eve Ensler’s The Vagina Monologues. The book is based on interviews with over 200 women about their memories and experiences of sexuality. For more information about the WCGL Book Club, please see its Facebook event listing.

Also on Tuesday, I am being interviewed about The HerStories Project on MSU’s student radio IMPACT 89FM. The program Exposure begins at 7pm and my slot runs last, around 7:45pm. Besides talking about the HerStories 2011 kick-off event Embodying Our Words (see below), I’ll also read new poetry!

The creative writing circle The Writing Room meets this Thursday, Feb. 17, from 7-9pm at the WCGL. Our optional prompt will take inspiration from V-Day!

Embodying Our Words takes place on MSU campus Friday, Feb. 18 (12:30-5pm), and at WCGL Saturday, Feb. 19 (9am-7:30pm). The free program explores embodied writing, which draws upon life stories of gender expression, cultural survival, healing from violence, dis/abilities, spiritual activism, and more. Guests include Lauren Spencer of the MSU LGBT Resource Center, Lansing Online News contributor Therese Dawe, and Professor Mary Catherine Harper of Defiance College (Ohio). Registration is encouraged! Also, EOW participants are recommended to attend the MSU Vagina Monologues (see below).

The MSU Vagina Monologues is a production that benefits the MSU Sexual Assault Program.  Performances run the evening of Feb. 18, as well as the afternoon and evening of Feb. 19. Tickets can be purchased online, and student discounts are available.

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New Year Happenings

We’re well into January 2011, yet still I wish you a very happy New Year! This month debuts a collaborative blog on deyofthephoenix.com titled The Writing Room. It’s the online counterpart to a creative writing circle that I facilitate twice a month at the Women’s Center of Greater Lansing. FYI – The new blog is separate from this one, so anyone interested to follow needs to subscribe there.

And with the New Year, The HerStories Project is firing up! HerStories 2010 only took place during Women’s History Month. For 2011, The HerStories Project kicks off February 18 to 19 with a free program titled Embodying Our Words. The press release is now available, and registration is soon to follow.

If you’re interested to take part and/or volunteer in either endeavor, please send word! These are community-based programs and projects, so your interest is most welcome. Please contact herstories.project @ gmail.com about Embodying Our Words, and melissahasbrook @ gmail.com about The Writing Room.

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Deer Tracks

The day after winter solstice , I walked Mama dog at Mt. Hope Cemetery. She drew my attention to the western treeline where a doe stood, unperturbed but vigilant about our proximity. I smiled as we continued our walk, and later realized Mama lost one of her booties. Driving back for its retrieval, I again came upon the doe, who then sat toward the setting sun, her legs resting upon the ground. She turned her gaze toward me as I secured the car and slowly approached the booty. Upon my departure, her eyes turned back to the sun, as if engaged in a daily ritual. I was ecstatic to photograph the doe in her peaceful pose.

This encounter with Deer reminded me of a poem inspired in the New Year of 2010. Feedback in a writing circle at the time helped with revisions into the current form:

Deer Tracks

The wind sings
an austere song
over the snowy hilltop
where my father is buried.

Among hoof prints circling bushes,
around branches embracing headstones,
I spy two yellow roses
stuck in the earth.

With my boot I clear snow
from a grave and read
Nicole A. Tyler
1984 to 1985
Angel

Someone recalls
she would be 26
in the New Year,
as I remember

my father would be 62.
How these years blend
like the crisscross
of deer tracks.

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Between Butterfly Wings

In the past month, it was an honor to be part of of 16 Days Lansing, a program inspired by the international campaign 16 Days of Activism Against Gender Violence initiated in 1991 by the Center for Women’s Global Leadership at Rutgers University. A photo album for the program is available on Flicker, and the press release provides details about the events and themes.

The organizing team with whom I collaborated brought together a breadth of community groups and individuals, survivors of gender violence as well as advocates. Art served as our medium and balm, creativity invigorating our journeys of healing and activism. Many thanks to my teammates Karen Bota, director of The Leaven Center; Laurie Hollinger, intern at Center for Poetry (MSU RCAH); and Sandra Cade of Intercultural Communications. And many thanks to our co-promoters and the artists who shared their gifts throughout the program (see the press release).

At the closing event “A Night of Remembrance”, an arts exhibit of rich powerful pieces came together, reclaiming what violence steals, celebrating the strength of the human spirit and the feminine (see photos).  I tabled alongside community groups, displaying a gilded cage topped by a dazzling butterfly, whose wingspan exceeded the width of the golden bars.  My invitation to passersby read, “What’s your ‘word’ (thought) on transformation and healing?”, with the promise to publish the responses on my blog.

Here’s “the word” from those who wrote on the cards. Consider, what shape does healing and transformation take for you? Your continued sharing is most welcome…

Trust . . .

~ ~ ~

BUILDING CLOUDS, FORMING –
WIND RISING
THUNDER
LIGHTNING
RAIN
SUNSHINE
…..AND MAYBE A RAINBOW
…………………….SURPRISE  🙂

~ ~ ~

Transformation: choosing not to live in the past.

~ ~ ~

ONCE UPON A TIME THERE WAS A SAD + LONELY WOMAN. SHE HATED HER LIFE. SHE WAS TIRED OF HER ANGRY USELESS HUSBAND + DECIDED TO DO SOMETHING. SO SHE GOT ON A BUS + WENT FAR, FAR AWAY WITH A BABY ON HER LAP + WHAT LITTLE ELSE SHE COULD CARRY. AND SHE GREW TO APPRECIATE PEACE + FRIENDLINESS. AND BEFORE YOU KNOW IT HER ANGRY VIOLENT OLD HUSBAND + LIFE FADED AWAY.

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Kali must destroy the old to make way for the new. This is the time of the year to being anew. ~Judith

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December 13, Not Quite the Fortnight Before Christmas

Photo by MDH

The tree points up
bound in light

Bulbs reflect rainbows
silhouettes of spirits

who visit
loved ones .. .. ..

Grandma’s throw lies
about my neck

pastels crocheted
upon her lap

Those hands gave love
in soup and shawl

Franciscan prayers
at the Adoration Chapel

Ninety years since her birth
red-haired Iowan girl

Graduate of Bowling Green
eloped a World War II veteran

a dairy farmer
of German descent

She forwent her
father’s blessing .. .. ..

Margaret was a
thinker . teacher

wife . mother . widow
and in later years

a blue coated
patient escort

always quick in wit
and to another’s need

chauffeuring a friend to mass
teaching a grandchild math

and grinning upon sight
of great grandkids

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Who Remembers

Driving yesterday and listening to radio news, the story “Climate Groups Retool Argument For Global Warming” encouraged me to post this poem in progress. It’s fresh from Black Friday as I pondered several threads, including how the walrus soon may officially become an endangered species . What thoughts, questions, and suggestions do you have about the poem? What reflections does the poem stir from your perspective? I look forward to your responses.

Who Remembers

Browsing cards of
snow laden limbs and
cardinals in pines

each design drawn
by hand

I hear people praise
our unseasonable warmth

…..I say
…..It is no good

mindful of Arctic melt
glacial homes lost to polar bears

White fur eclipses
my loss as
freeze arrives late

I watch snowflakes
and wonder
where are you
who holds you

a stranger who knows not
your origins
as I know not your present

…..Snow falls
…..gently

Mourning my fountain pen
on Black Friday
strange name like

Good Friday
but what is good
about crucifixion

I ask Mom how long
she remembers this
holiday of consumption

since her memory is
longer than mine

…..She says
…..Born in your lifetime

A discounted substitute may do
for tubes waiting
to be stuck and

ink to flow but
will not assuage loss
I take an inventory

difficult and necessary
of subsequent outcomes
netting how

…..quantity and quality
…..matter

At northern fall equinox
scientists count fewer pups
theorize how walrus mothers

may lose track on land
rather than on glaciers
where their species nest and birth

At northern winter solstice
experts intend to assess whether the walrus
is endangered

like the polar bear
like the glaciers
like the peoples of these lands

…..like the memory of humans
…..when we lose track

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Women Are Not Wombs

This video is my first upload to You Tube! I recorded it at last week’s exhibit opening for Transitions at the LGBT Resource Center of Michigan State University. The opening took place during Transgender Week of Remembrance. Soon I will upload the entire show. If you’re in the area, swing by the LGBTRC and check out the exhibit!

“Women Are Not Wombs” was my sure pick to submit and came into being while reading Mary Daly’s Gyn/Ecology during the summer of 2007. The poem embodies my rejection of this celebrated feminist’s hostility toward transgendered persons. FYI – A thoughtful and provoking response to Daly’s legacy is captured by Sady in the blog post “Acts of Contrition: Feminism, Privilege, and the Legacy of Mary Daly” (Feministe).

It was an honor to be a part of the event, which gave me the chance to perform this piece for the first time!

Women Are Not Wombs
by Melissa Dey Hasbrook
for Mary Daly

women are not wombs
nor safe deposit boxes and Mrs. Potato Heads
nor clitorises and hormones

we are seen by eyes tracking us over time
deeming us fit for certain positions
recognizing our surface designs as wardrobes and body types

whether equipped with dicks or lips
we are monitored closely by misogynists intent on our demise
arrival at their ends and means and beginnings

*

WOMAN’s definition daily sprung by wombed warriors
reminiscent of The Mother of Christ
and Magdalena The Whore

Mary Mary quite contrarily describes
anatomical requirements to be WOMAN
forgetful in spite of attempts to re-member Prehistory

when we stand in stories
eyes travel our lines
sizing inches between margins and thighs

yet The Woman Identified
defies bindings
applied to chemistry and biology

*

WOMAN is made not simply born

we break casts poured as molds
to constrain our brains and libidos

we dance over splintered plaster
until another doctor tries to diagnose our fate

and we survive again to dance again

and live with knowledge of eminent threats
well acquainted since we knew ourselves in a nonbiblical sense

we are self inventors and appropriators
reclaiming and playing with words
whether or not wombed

we are made in minds
of our own and others beside us

we are made by choices
of our own and others besides us

we are made every day

and some of us refuse to be tucked tight
like morning beds

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Cross the Border

How do we change anything? Anything pertaining to the injustices of this world, in our communities and relationships. Do we take on the system? Do we engage our loved ones? Some of us gravitate toward one or the other; few bridge the political and personal. I’m re-viewing my stages of engagement, which some call activism. Conventionally activism is situated in the political-social realm, pushing at institutions, power structures, as well as individuals occupying influential positions within them.

Between 2002 and 2007 I located myself “here”, rallying against the powers-that-be in the interest of justice and peace – so was my intention. Actions always were personal, on the anti-war front with loved ones who were foreigners and subjected to increased hostility among the public and from the government. At that time, I held the image of loved ones’ relations in places where my government bombed.

Part of this work just now is coming to press in the anthology Activism and Rhetoric: Theories and Contexts for Political Engagement, a project that encountered greater controversy to publish than its editors anticipated (hence the long wait!). My chapter “Intervention and Rhetorics of War: Classical Insights for Contemporary Activists” is a blast from the past, when I took to NYC streets in 2003 upon the US invasion of Iraq. Re-viewing the article six years after its final revision, I read it as someone who’s crossing over, mindful of Gloria Anzaldúa‘s vision for fashioning a new way of being that heals the divide:

    But it is not enough to stand on the opposite river bank, shouting questions, challenging patriarchal, white conventions. A counterstance locks one into a duel of oppressor and oppressed; locked in mortal combat, like the cop and the criminal, both are reduced to a common denominator of violence. […] Because the counterstance stems from a problem with authority—outer as well as inner—it’s a step towards liberation from cultural domination. But it is not a way of life. At some point, on our way to a new consciousness, we will have to leave the opposite bank, the split between the two mortal combatants somehow healed so that we are on both shores at once and, at once, see through serpent and eagle eyes. Or perhaps we will decide to disengage from the dominant culture, write it off altogether as a lost cause, and cross the border into a wholly new and separate territory. [emphasis mine] (Borderlands/ La Frontera, page 100-01)

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Looking back, I recognize the sheer force of emotion propelling me, as with the local campaign addressing violence against women in 2007, spurred in part by murders of women late that summer in my town. What else spurred me though? Our actions always draw upon our histories and presents while shaping our futures.

Early in the summer I revised poems that became the collections Blame It on Eve! (2007) and the land, once called DeWitt (2009). Yet due to the community work I pursued, the release of BIE! intended for fall 2007 was postponed until December. Emotion absorbed me as I handed myself over to bursts of action at city hall and writing the media. Again I had set aside poetry, an old habit while pursuing other lives – the dutiful Christian wife or the aspiring academic. (These roles may smack some as strange parallels, but in actuality they have a lot in common!)

Today my work takes another tempo. I focus on creativity in service of community and people touched by violence, who is everyone alongside survivors. My heart calls for justice upon learning of the un-prosecuted rape of a young woman attending my alma mater Michigan State University (see Michigan Messenger Sep. 29 and Oct. 6), while my soul calls for healing as she joins the journey of survivors. Justice may lend to healing but doesn’t guarantee it. As a survivor whose perpetrator didn’t pay legally for his sexual assault of me, I still pursue a path of healing (see my post “Story Survives”).

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Past experiences of protest and teaching at university leave me unconvinced that systems of any sort initiate just efforts. I don’t believe in institutions as sources of just social change, but I believe in people pushing at structures that inevitably give at one weak point or another. My decision to vote last week, for instance, was not motivated by the idea that the current electoral system will result in any real change for justice. I voted to honor those who pushed at the system to make it give me a right to vote – a person without property, a woman, a descendant of Cherokees. When I re-view history for instigators of change, I find those who were not represented in the institutions agitating outside of them. Eventually this agitation broke through institutional resistance to change.

Then there are efforts to uphold the law, when people use the system in its own design, like American Indians who continue to press the US federal government to uphold treaties, documents made with sovereign nations upon this continent (see the American Indian Tribal Sovereignty Primer). The outcomes are hard won and long pursued to gain back land stolen and rights to land recognized as tribally owned. In these cases, I don’t place my faith in the system, but rather the people who insist that the system work as it is designed to, pushing pass neglect of authorities.

So despite brokenness in part because of authorities’ abdication of duty, the legal system is obligated to uphold its code as people persevere its purpose. This lesson applies to the prosecution of sexual violators, a pursuit of justice for the assaulted as well as the wider community, who likewise is damaged by this violence. The obligation only will be fulfilled, it seems, when people insist, make noise, maintain vigil.

In the Lansing area, the Coalition Against Sexual Violence based at Michigan State University maintains a public presence to challenge rape culture while calling upon the university administration to fulfill its institutional responsibility (see Nov. 3 letter in The State News). This dual effort is vital, because without change on the ground – the ways people think about, talk to, and treat one another – systematic action will not ensure the healing process nor engage the pervasive attitudes that lead to violence and violation. This work pushes at unjust social practices while giving hope to those facing violence, a two-pronged effort that currently reaches across the US with campaigns like “Give a Damn” and “It Gets Better”.

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Day-to-day I am enriched and challenged by one-on-one exchanges when it comes to matters of justice and healing, many times with survivors of violence. At the peaceful protest for justice in sexual assault cases, coming to know a survivor who drove by and decided to join. Seeking audience with a whose perspective on justice in sexual assault leaves me with a lot of questions. Reaching for words in poems to make space for stories of survivors, even when an audience may hesitate to hear, even when advocates question the readiness of a survivor to speak (see my post “Aware” with the poem “Ready”).

I support the peaceful persistence of the CASV and others who demand that our broken systems serve our communities. I share words through poems and other vehicles, part of my healing process that hopefully inspires others in pursuing justice and their own healing. The words and actions of others like Gloria Anzaldúa inspire and encourage me to “cross the border into a wholly new and separate territory.”

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Story Survives

I’ve struggled with words for weeks, scribbling and setting aside an account of the peaceful protest I attended October 1 outside the Ingham County Prosecutor’s office; see my photos on Flickr.  I cannot capture the essence of that experience and have found dissatisfaction in the attempt. But in the process I’ve reflected upon my healing journey, crossings with survivors, allies, advocates. And I am grateful for the integrity of journalist Todd Heywood and media source Michigan Messenger for reporting a survivor’s story that otherwise would be buried by the legal system; see the breaking story from Sept. 29 and a follow-up regarding the legal system Oct. 6.

>>>>>While I’m unable to convey the amazing hours among kindred spirits last month, I pass on this story with recognition for the Coalition Against Sexual Violence, which calls upon the administration at my alma mater Michigan State University to hold its students and athletes accountable for sexual assault. In sharing the story, I support those who are able to join CASV this evening, November 2, as they peacefully protest in tandem with the MSU men’s basketball game. For those who cannot attend, please join me in a prayer of peace for safety at their event and for healing as well as justice…

~

We sit outside, wrapped in layers. Late October chills. We chat as leaves ride bursts of wind. Mama dog enjoys attention from a new hand, a balding man with big framed glasses and no teeth. I sit on the concrete, he on a bench, and Mom on another bench. These final minutes of our monthly visit are bright. He hasn’t handled a dog for years, and I hear joy in his voice as he talks with Mama dog.

>>>>>The man is my mom’s brother, my only living uncle. He is the youngest of four siblings, and the only son of late parents. He’s been living in institutions of one sort or another most of his life. He also is the person who sexually assaulted me when I was ten years old.

I scan pages at the computer as my sister talks on the phone. We just saw each other at our brothers’ weddings. Her kids resist homework time, and she pushes back at their protests. I tell her about visiting my uncle. She quizzes, “Your uncle?” since the uncle we shared through our late father is dead. “My mom’s brother, my only living uncle,” I explain. “You mean the one that–” and I interrupt, “Yes, I’ve been visiting him for a year and a half.”

>>>>>She’s stumped, “I didn’t know that.” I wonder to myself, “Wow, have I really not mentioned it?” Info possibly lost in the shuffle of life – hers on the West Coast, mine between Belgium and the Midwest. Undoubtedly I speak little of the visits, as I still absorb their significance.

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It’s winter in Belgium. The morning frost thaws by midday. I rummage among papers below a wooden beam, one of two that run along the ceiling. From my writing room I speak with Mom by computer and ask, “Has anyone heard about him since Grandma died? It’s been two and a half years.” She shares the news, “Actually he sent a letter not too long ago. He had surgery and is doing alright.”

>>>>>We talk more about the letter, the first word since he refused contact of any kind with anyone for years. I tell Mom, “I want to see him.” I don’t know why I want this, but I do. Grandma would want him to be visited, but I am motivated by my own purpose, opaque yet tangible.

We arrive early to the facility – new, massive, in the middle of nowhere. Wire and a tower surround its perimeter. He’s been here for years while the courts take their time ruling on his sanity. He was charged with arson after baking clothes in the oven of his boarding room. Mom and I wait around the check-in counter. A few more visitors join us. We sign in and are subject to screening. The photo album I brought as a gift sets off the alarm. The cover is the culprit – shiny purple foil.

>>>>>We must visit one at a time and I go first, escorted to a secured room. I’m directed to pick a seat facing a thick transparent barrier. He emerges from a door in a jumpsuit, sporting a shaggy white beard, more hair on his face than head. An image of ZZ Top flashes. Our voices are muffled by the phones hanging from the barrier. Our words are few. In short order he relays, “I’m ready to see your mom.” And so I am led again to the outside world.

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My sister doesn’t ask for an explanation, yet her surprise begs one. Words are insufficient. Still I venture an impression, “I think the visits are about healing, but more his healing than mine.”

>>>>>I have felt healed – more than less – since learning to speak what once was unspeakable, not just the assault but most anything connected with the body. Less and less am I showered by shame, an internalized assault that radiates the entire body, which used to strike with every menses and sexual experience.

Wearing an A-line dress, a gorgeous find from the thrift store taken for my brother’s wedding, I stand in front of the hotel mirror. The bodice is snug, showing some cleavage. My mind knows the dress fits perfectly, while my emotions burn in shame. A friend loans me a thin sweater, and I wrap a scarf around my neck.

>>>>>The naked feeling wears off by the reception. As the music starts, I set aside my accessories and hit the dance floor. I twist and shake with my eleven-year-old niece to oldies, which my father would sing if he were alive. I celebrate being alive in this body and learning how to overcome the shame that lingers.

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